If you’ve read my blog in the past, you have have read one of my most popular articles, Why I left Facebook. Well I’m here today to tell you why I came back. I discovered how to correctly use Facebook Friend Lists and how to tie access and security to them. I recommend you do the same.
Rather than sort through my friend nightmare (500+ friends, only a handful of which I’d actually call friends; the rest are people I just know or have met once), I created a list called “actual friends.” Then, I went into my privacy settings and allowed pretty much full access to all of my information for those who appear in the actual friends list. I did the same for photos and posts. Everyone else sees my limited profile with basic status updates. Nothing else. I feel a lot more comfortable now. Now I don’t have to chop through my friends list, leaving some people wondering why I de-friended them. I can add people I barely know and further differentiate them from my actual friends. Additionally, now I can look at the status updates of only my “actual friends.” No more sorting through lists composed of people I really care to know nothing about, just to discover what is going on with my friends. If you haven’t used Facebook’s list feature, I highly recommend that you do.
Facebook used to actually ask you how you knew a person when you added them as a friend. The problem is, most people didn’t use this feature and the data then became irrelevant. If only that caught on , we wouldn’t have this mess we do now. The sad thing is, Facebook has become merely a yearbook of people you once went to school with, worked with, worked out with, met at a party once, or creepily stalk.
I’m still not comfortable with the fact that Facebook essentially has a timeline of my life from 2004-2010 somewhere propagated across hundreds of their servers. That’s a bit unsettling. But I as a consumer use the service and accept the risk. Let’s hope they never let me down.
Let me know if you want a deeper run-down on the whole friend lists. I’d be happy to create a follow-up post with some screen caps.
Rather than go with a fresh, young Drew Stanton as the starter for Sunday against the Bills, the Lions announced that a one-armed Shaun Hill will start. This tells you one of two things:
1) Drew Stanton is not very highly thought of in the Lions organization
2) The Lions have something up their sleeves
I’m going to elect to go with # 2, and here’s why. Jim Schwartz made it very clear today that he was upset with the media and its assumptions about Matt Stafford’s injury. Much of the media has written Stafford off for the remainder of the season and Schwartz took exception to that. He said something to the effect of the media was scouting for the opposition.
Now why is this so important? Schwartz is cornered. The Bills know Stafford won’t play at all now and they will consequently lick their chops for an inexperienced Drew Stanton coming in on the road. Schwartz knows this and wants to not only protect Stanton, but insert a bit of trickery into the equation. This is why I believe Shaun Hill is merely a decoy. To save his job, Schwartz cannot afford to lose another consecutive road game, not to mention against the worst team in the league. He’s desperate. He wants to do what he can to make sure the Lions offense won’t suffer.
Stanton isn’t a gun-slinging, amazingly accurate QB. He has a solid arm, but relies on his legs to get the job done. I believe the Lions realize this and will run a wildcat offense with Stanton against a Bills team who now (wink wink) is preparing for the pocket-passing Hill– they’re probably dialing up a few zero blitzes to break Hill’s other arm.
Hill. Decoy. Stanton. Wildcat.
The other thing that may happen is that Hill will *start* but Stanton will take the majority of the snaps. Notice how Schwartz said “baring any setbacks, Hill will start?” I really don’t believe the Lions will leave Hill in the game the entire time.
If Stanton was that bad to where an injured Hill is getting the start over him, why do the Lions still have Drew Stanton on their roster? Wouldn’t they have cut him by now? Something is going on and we’re about to find out Sunday.
I wanted to give my page some color and style, so I just finished a page refresh/redesign. I kept my same logo, but put more emphasis on the page structure. My last design felt incomplete and colorless. I hope this one sticks for awhile.
Today was a good day. The end of an era, some might say. Today, I deleted my Facebook account– for good! After learning about the new “Friendship pages,” feature, that was my last straw. Facebook, better known as Stalkbook, has officially given the average user super private investigator abilities. With seemingly one click, any one can study the relationship between two friends on Facebook. While they thought they were doing its users justice by implementing said feature, they’re actually enabling a much more powerful stalking tool that could prove to be very dangerous in the future.
When I first joined Facebook back in 2004, I was happy to be able to reconnect with friends at a distance. I loved how I could send them messages and keep in touch. As time went on, more people joined Facebook and the term “friend” came to mean something much broader. It meant “Hey I know that girl from high school. Yeah she’s totally my friend!” Thus the term “Facebook friend” was born. As this phenomenon continued, privacy actually became an issue before anyone even noticed it. It got out of hand. The guy across the hall in college from three years ago could see all your wall posts, pictures, etc… When you think about that, it’s actually sort of scary. Do you REALLY want other “Facebook friends” following you and your entire life when you’re not really friends in real life? We’ve unknowingly welcomed stalkers into our lives.
Insert Facebook’s new Friendship Page feature. If you didn’t think anyone was truly Facebook stalking you before, they are now. This feature allows anyone to follow your friend timeline with any mutual friend. Want drama? You’ll get it. Jealousy? Yeah that’ll come too. Do you want to put up a fake Facebook account, become Facebook friends with two people, study them and use that for a private investigator business or for your own serial killer mentality? Well you’ve got that too.
My advice to all of you is to re-evaluate what it really means to be on Facebook. Do you do it just to reconnect with friends, or do you enjoy stalking the lives of others? If it truly is friends you want, ditch your Facebook account and find other mechanisms to communicate. If the addictive stalker in you cannot get enough, stay put. You’ll have tons of fun now.
Some of you may be wondering…well why didn’t you just take the time to filter through your friends list to ensure that you only have your true friends on your list? Simple answer…I’ve got better things to do. Goodbye Facebook.
Sorry for the lack of updates; the contractors have not been coming over consistently as they are awaiting the delivery of my doors. In any event, here are some pictures of the latest changes (walls are painted, electrical is about finished, and the lights are ready in the new closets).
I ran into an issue the last few times I tried to use the washer. Water came up through the floor drain and flooded the entire area. Basically, long story short, there was a pluming error on their part that caused them to have to rip up a bunch of flooring and install a laundry tub. It seems to be in good shape now.
There are rumors floating around that Facebook and Skype are in talks about integrating Skype service into Facebook. Hello video chat and potentially voice calls! Even though Google has this in-chat video technology today, we all know Facebook doesn’t want any part of it. Given Google’s lack-of success in the social media space, Skype integration into Facebook could put the final dagger through Google’s social media campaign.
While this all sounds great to most people, I believe that the service integration will just be too much. I don’t know about you, but I only video chat with those friends that are close to me emotionally, but not in distance.
I used to love the simplicity of Facebook. It let me find my friends, send them an occasional update, and maybe even invite them to events. Sorry, but I don’t want to chat with you. I don’t want to see all of your wicked scores from Mafia Wars. I don’t even want to see what you have for sale in the Marketplace. Please stop trying to make Facebook the jack of all trades. It is a social media app, not an iPhone.
Not much to report on the basement today. I thought the workers would be painting the walls khaki yesterday, but it turned out that they just added another layer of white. They also delivered a bunch of laminate flooring yesterday and I saw them bringing in a tile saw and padding this morning; so I think they’re going to start that today.